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Originally Posted by WannabeMe84
Hi guys,
Hope you are all well today  . I had one of my worst panic attack type episodes today. I've been really struggling to cope with life recently (I'm in therapy but the depth we are going to is causing some upheaval in my day to day life). I feel a great amount of shame around admitting to not coping, reaching out for help, feeling emotions etc. I'm fairly aware that it comes from my father who is and particularly was, a bit of a tyrant (I don't like labels cos he's not that bad but it's the best way I can describe him). I guess my question is, does anybody else experience this sort of shame? I was brought up to think anything like this was 'mental', 'crazy', shameful etc but as I learn more I start to realise that it may be healthy to react in such a way given hurtful stimuli and the difficulties of life. I am considering that perhaps I am not alone and I guess I'm eager to find out if this inkling is justified.
If you've got this far, thank you so much for reading. Much love. |
I love this post. Thank you for sharing. Shame and guilt are similar and often found hand in hand. I struggled so much with chronic guilt and therefore shame. Mostly from my upbringing coupled with my personality . Something that has helped me transition from that dark feeling of worthlessness is the book called "The gifts of imperfection" by Brene Brown. It was a life saver! It talks about guilt and shame, and breaks them down so we can understand, and therefore fight them! It's educational and uplifting! It's like drinking a tall glass of water in a parched land. I felt like FINALLY someone understood.
If you're able to, I'd highly suggest buying it. Take it with you to a nice quiet place, and read. Find your joy again. You won't regret it - --- sending love and comfort!