I'm not trying to fix David in no way. I want to understand what's going on in his world so I can be compassionate and not harsh to judge or even made the wrong step to set off a trigger. I have no understanding and with a sudden shut-out, how could I? The only person that can fix David is himself with the help of his doctors but only if he wants to. I just want to be supportive, and I'm doin it from afar. To gain understanding and lacking ignorance to the problem is one option of helping loved one. As for the power dynamic - there's no application here - to see a relationship in such a matter is more cynical and sterile - lacks emotion and that's the problem today. Care to elaborate how I am a "not together person who's working full time and going to graduate school"?