OK. I have a girlfriend that I love and care about very much. She is good to me and is quite frankly everything I have been looking for in a partner. Now with that being saif I have this I guess defense mechanism that when I feel like I'm becoming to close to someone I push them away. Not sure if it is intentional or just what happens but I do it. I pick fights I accuse little things for no reason. I think I feel that if I push them away it won't hurt as much when they voluntarily leave. I don't know how to stop this this is all I know. I don't want to lose her but its inevitable I think. I just don't know what to do.