Good question from SeaweedKelp. I was married for 41 years when my husband walked out. I had no idea this was coming. I was the happiest I had ever been. Now, after learning from my attorney that my former husband just spent $21,000 for plastic surgery, I think I get it. 63 is the new 40! Major life crisis. My 6 sibs say they don't know who this man is,nor do I. I realized very early that I couldn't wrap my head around this and have been successful in not trying. My 2 adult children do not communicate with him, and that is their perogative.

Nothing had ever been that painful. I completely lost it: drinking and passing out. I went to a grief and loss workshop at the Meadows, and it was very helpful. The divorce is almost final, after 8 months, and I am so ready to move on. I don't know who this person is, talking as we always did about the importance or commitment and integrity. Gone with the wind.

Hoping you fare well,

Grandessa