Quite honestly - since I have been raped 3 times, a violin teacher tried to molest me as a kid, and my first job I was sexually harassed to the point of physical endangerment - unless the attention is wanted attention from the person I am in a relationship with, I instantly go cold...but then aftera minute I fly into a rage. They tend to back off when you rage at them. Dont remember when or why I started raging - I used to just go cold, freeze, and become listless or if pushed too much I broke down a bit and almost compliant though never quite able to be compliant. So it really messed with my mind - it was like a tug of war of sorts.