An example of how my husband can be. Since giving birth to my son, I gained 60 pounds on my already large frame. I am 5'2 and at my heaviest weighed 265 pounds. My previous job kept me constantly moving and between my medication and staying active, I lost 100 pounds during my 1.5 years working there. For the first time in years I felt damn good about myself reaching a size 10 in pants. I had confidence for the first time in many depressive years. I felt amazing. When I lost this job I started gaining the weight back. I am back up to 208. I am upset and depressed about it. My husbands response to me being upset with my weight gain? "You look good with extra meat on your bones, plus you got too much attention when you were smaller. You had an affair. " I have been called a w****, a slut. He made this comment to my son. " mommy has a boyfriend. " my son doesn't need to be in the middle of this. I am tired of how we live. We move about every year. He gets sick of paying rent at one place and we have to move. He comes up with excuses as to why we must move. He has no drivers license, he owes back child support for his daughter that he does not attempt to contact. He owes 50,000+ to the IRS. He has a habit of scamming the system whenever he can. I do not want this life style for my son. My father in law is a drunk, although pleasant when sober. My mother in law is addicted to pills. My husband is a good father at times but loves to spoil our son. He will give our son whatever he wants and gives into his tantrums and will not discipline him. I tried getting our son into daycare to get him started with being around other kids and my husband pulled him out after 2 days. He play fights with our son which I am against because our son thinks its okay to hit. My husband nick named our cat "Tigger n*****" which my son started calling the cat this. My husband thought it was funny. I know I have cussed in front of our son so I am also to blame for some choice words he has repeated but he will not grow up to be unintentionally racist! I have no privacy. He has gotten better but at one point if I was active on my fb account, he would call me up and ask why. He will occasionally sign into my messenger and read my messages from people. At my last job, I had to call on every break and call when I got to my car. If I called more than 5 minutes after punching out, I would be asked why it took so long and who was I talking to. He doesn't like me going to my moms alone and if I talk to her he will ask me " oH did you talk to her about moving in" He has threatened that he would take my son and move back to Virginia, we live in new York near Vermont border. He gets ugly with me for not having sex with him. I honestly am not sexually attracted to him anymore. I honestly feel stuck. I would take my son to my moms but she lives 20 minutes away in Vermont which would involve taking him over state lines. I just recently got a new job and the first thing he said was "it better not happen again, how many guys are around you and how old are they. " I feel very stuck and unsure of what to do.