I know over spending or the need to spend is a part of the bipolar mania but it still sucks. I've been in a manic state for a few months now and all I want to do is spend, spend, spend. Which is totally find for me but not for my finances or my wife.

I've already spent money on tickets to different events in different towns on 4 different occasions in the near future. They're no refundable and rather expensive and we both don't see the need to waste them. We need the vacation and it will make us both happy because it's things we like to do together... plus 2 of them are going to be anniversary trips for or 1 year anniversary. The wife said she'd do the travel arrangements so I don't over pay and she can find the deals. She seems happy with the trips, so I dunno how to feel about them and my spur of the moment purchases.

I want instant gratification and because my wife can't seem to say no to me it's making our finances worse and thus making the wife depressed. I love spending money on me but more important I want to make the wife happy so I want to spend money on her and whatever will make her happy, though I know not spending money and paying off cc debt is what makes her happy. I just can't seem to get the need/want under control enough to help her save money and pay off debt... it's so boring and not gratifying in the least bit.

Because of this stress, my mania, her depression there is a strain on our marriage and its manifesting in lots of arguing and a lot of crying on her part. I guess my question is how do you all deal with the need to spend? Is there anyway you can satisfy that instant gratification from spending and appease the wife and the budget? Any advise would greatly be appreciated.