My son is getting married in less than two weeks. His future wife has not even told her parents about the wedding because she absolutely does not want either of them to show up and create drama. She wants everyone at the wedding to be people who can come willingly, supportively, positively, and fully lovingly without their own agendas creating any kind of drama. Our whole family will be there; we know how to do all of the above. No one in her family will be there; none of them know how to do the above.

If you can do the above, then go. If you cannot, I honestly would suggest you stay away. Send a lovely gift and kind note, but stay away if you cannot be fully supportive and pleasant and not make it about you.