It is really hard when we see our adult children choose to have the people we despise in their lives.

I honestly can't see why my children would want their stepfather in their lives but he is. Despite what he did to me, and that it was obviously so, they still think of him has a father figure. I've just had to live with this fact, as irritating and hurtful as it is.

But they are adults and in charge of their own social and family circles. Even though we may disagree with them we must respect these are their choices.

Go to the wedding, bite your tongue and do your best to get through the day. Remember, you are there for her and not the reverse on this big day in her life. You may not enjoy yourself but at least you won't rue the fact you didn't go.