No I dont have everything figured out. The person who posted the previous reply about taking a vacation from his/her relationship - that's too ego-centric for me. David and I have been talking throughout this and he slowly letting me know what's going on with him. I dont believe in abandoning your loved ones when they're down or loving someone on the basis of their circumstances because that's due to change. If someone's posting is relating correction and based on assumptions - all I did was correct them. Like the person - they're stating their opinions. If I could sit and write each part of what's happened - it would be tow pages. I'm here to search for help and understanding about an area I have no idea about - good or bad postings I listen with an open mind.