Exactly. If my never do well brother got a higher than average mark it was cause for great joy and he was rewarded. He was that sibling who could fall into bucket of crap and come out covered in gold. Yet, while I tried to achieve goodness I was put down for being so. I was bullied by my peers and I was bullied by my mother. She even herself said to me "why can't you be more like your brother?" The message that gave me was she was embarrassed of having a dork for a daughter. The message I got was that popularity was more important than credibility.