Actually I made no assumptions. I simply told the story of my own future daughter-in-law and her hopes and desires for her own wedding as a way of explaining what your daughter most likely wishes for her own wedding and what her fears are about what might go awry. Is it her being negative, or is it her expressing her fears about and desires for her own wedding? You take her words as negative, and they very well may have been expressed that way, but underlying them are her fears and desires that hopefully you can hear and respect on her wedding day.