ozzycat: the consensus seems to be that you should go for your daughter's big day, put on your best smile and be on your best behavior since this is her special day. I feel much compassion for you. That's why I was wondering if you could take somebody with you to help you through it. I hope you'll go and that it will turn out better then you expected. I personally would understand if you couldn't go but sent a nice gift and a note instead. I'll be there with you in spirit.