We talked to our T yesterday and she thinks this 2nd friend (M) really does sound trustworthy and I should go ahead with talking to her about us. Yellow usually doesn't talk to me, and I wanted to talk about this friend issue so bad I just started talking at her, hoping she would listen. I told her I know how she feels about sharing dx with people and I really want to be respectful of her feelings, but in order to do that I need to actually talk to her (and I said please talk to me and not bring up those stabby feelings instead!) I told her all my reasons why I think we should have another friend, how M has proven herself trustworthy, etc, all while having no reply whatsoever. Days later to my surprise she started talking to me after I had a meeting with the littles. She was totally listening and was okay with it as long as we got T's opinion first and that Yellow talked to M herself about us. She wants s to express the importance of not talking about us with anyone else and to see how she handles the conversation. I'm thrilled! This will be interesting for sure. Just to be clear, M knows we have parts (funny phrase there) and a bit about we came about/how DID works. And I don't plan to spring Yellow on her without an introduction.