I have a part that scared me when I first started to be aware of her. She was mean to me and one of the little ones, and inside she looked like one of our abusers, even the same age. My T encouraged me to be curious about her and pointed out how her actions were attempts to maintain the anonymity of the system--it bothered this part that I was becoming more aware of them all. I'm glad my T encouraged me like that, because it was true. When I "met" this part, she was extremely upset about her inner appearance- she didn't want to look like that, but it was her job, in a way, to be scary and mean and keep all us other parts from contacting each other, so that buried secrets and memories would stay that way and we would not fall apart. She bawled and cried because she felt all of us hated her. Anyway my T has worked with her on connecting to the present reality that we are no longer in danger and she can learn to function differently. Her appearance has changed slightly over time and she's learning how to communicate nicely, and the rest of us are learning how to have compassion and respect for her.