I agree Sophiesmom, she is not being upfront, honest or straight forward with me. I know I made mistakes and she has as well. No one is perfect. It's just not right to have me around as a safety net with the feeling of being in Limbo. It's been over 14 months since we lived together if you count the 9 months I was gone on deployment. I asked numerous times to go to counseling with me or if she wanted a divorce or not. I just need to know what direction we are heading too. If she is not in love with me no more, or doesn't want to staybmarried, just be honest and upfront and say it instead of "Do whatever you feel you have to do". She makes random hints about co parenting and stuff like that, and that she is focused on work,school and kids but she doesn't have time for us. She sure has time for her friends though. I just want some closure, is that to much to ask?? Or should I stay in limbo and assume things cause she is not saying anything to me or giving me straight answers? What else am I suppose to think? She never mentioned reconciliation