Oh saluki... I'm so sorry. Being absolutely devoted to my pets myself, I understand how much that would hurt.

But, the pets are not part of your (plural) family if he hates
them...

But you know, there are SO many issues involved in your post that I think it will be more clear to you once your steam clears and you can work through the issues one by one. Right now, the issues seem very scrambled together even though the most likely scenario is that many of them are unrelated; just coincidental.

hang in there - we're listening.