lmo - you are so right. and i try to tell him this but he doesnt believe me. he seems to think that all our problems stem from outside sources like working a lot or going to school etc..

i said to him "dont you ever think that maybe the reason we fight isnt because of money, its because of us?" and he totally ignores that. i know you shouldnt try to change the one youre with but i dont feel like hes even the same person. he is turning into his father and that scares the crap out of me.

sorry if i offend anyone, but his dad is a total right wing republican. and republicans and i dont typically get along. his dad grew up in a lower middle class family like me but now that he has money he thinks he needs to play the part. hes at a country club playing golf, going on business trips, buying corvetts -the whole deal. and money is everything to this guy. he is stingy and complains about everything and acts like he forgot what it was like to be working class. he forgot what working in the food service was like and now is that customer that we all cant stand who asks to change his table after we sit him (anyone who has worked in a restaraunt knows that its so aggravating when you sit someone and they want another table).

well i feel like thats who he is turning into. he has lost all his compassion and his heart. and thats what i loved about him. he had passion about things and now he doesnt. he has passion about money.

i have asked him to go to the animal shelter with me and volunteer on a day to see what these animals go through and he doesnt want to. hed rather sit at home and watch football. he has gone with me once to clean the cat cages at petco (another thing we do for the humane society) but didnt do anything. he didnt want to volunteer at the soup kitchen in dayton on thanksgiving. he didnt want to go to my rally about reproductive rights so i went alone.

he didnt have to work for anything growing up and i feel like thats the reason hes like this. i lived out of my car, was in an abusive relationship, went through multiple divorces, ive been raped etc... but that is totally alien to him. so im very active in my community especially in womens groups and animal shelters. but he just doesnt have an interest.

he said "maybe if it effected me directly i would be more interested" so i said. okay, when they start chipping away at roe. v. wade and close down planned parenthoods across america that doesnt just affect women who want abortions, it effects women who only want pap smears, mammograms or any other preventative medicine. that includes me.

i just dont get what happened to him. hes becoming the type of person i hate. obsessed with money and not caring about others, the environment, anything....