i never thought about it like that. what could i do about that though? cause then if he doesnt like to do them or want to help me i feel like he doesnt want to take an interest in things i like. he is going back to school for a second bachelors, this time in journalism, with a focus on sports media. and i watch all the football games, keep up on players, watch basketball(ugh) lol etc... so it feels like im making an effort to be interested in what hes interested in but hes not doing the same.

i understand the animal shelter thing because if hes around more than a couple dogs at once he wont stop sneezing for several minutes.

i wouldnt want to stop my activism though? ive been trying to find something he would be interested in so that we could do that together.

that actually makes a lot of sense. especially lately. our area i so small that getting a real job is very hard. he feels like a failure for not using his degree yet (which isnt his fault at all cause he has turned in probably over 2 dozen apps and resumes). he knows now that he jerked around in college and feels like a failure for not doing as well as i do.

you think that maybe feeling inadequate to me is causing all this resentment and all these bad moods hes having towards me?

now i feel bad i hope i dont push my success in his face. i dont try to but when you live together you cant hide things like grades and doing charities. i think once he goes back to school and feels like hes doing something with his life hell feel better about himself.

thank you so much lmo. youve calmed me down and really helped me through this to see his side.