Dont wait on the television or forum to tell you how to redefine yourself to find yourself. Share what went wrong how you grew what moral characters what you think is best at your age in the context of dating. Allow urself to grieve mature that is always happening with several people. Purge out the toxic and accentuate what went right. Take yourself to lunch self care is important get a good movie spruce up your area taking care being alone with anyone having to elevate you will give you fresh start then go from there.