I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. You're not alone. I don't feel like I've taken meds that have made things worse or had any bad side effects (except for the dreaded rash from Lamicatal). I've just had medications that did absolutely nothing. I can't even imagine coming off something like Xanax or Klonopin. I am on both and if I go for even one day without them, the withdrawals are severe.
I hope you start feeling better soon. It sounds like your husband really care for you. Best wishes.