confused, that was a big step forward, and a brave one, to call a lawyer and set up an appointment.

That was really supportive of your T to check in on you and call. He sounds like such a good guy.

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Anyway, he told me that he feels he is also telling me what to do,he doesn't want to be lumped in with those people

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I think that is wonderful and exactly right for what a T should do. He should not tell you what to do or control you, but support your healthy choices. Are you angry at your T because you want him to be more directive/controlling?

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Is he totally right..........am I totally on my own right now???????

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I don't think he said that, did he? He is right there with you, but you have to make the decisions. He will come along with you, though, every step of the way. I sometimes think of my T as my divorce buddy. I could never have done this by myself (and I am still not done). T is right there next to me for "all things divorce." (Plus, more too, of course.)

As for the Trauma T, yes, you should probably pay if you canceled on such short notice, but do not go to a make-up appointment just for the sake of getting your money's worth. If you are not up to doing the trauma work right now, then just pay but don't go. You can always resume your trauma work later. But it would be good to phone up your Trauma T and let her know what is happening and why you are taking a break from your work together.