It's ok when they are young as it can teach them that there is someone that cares but while doing that it's important to teach them how to stick up for themselves because there won't always be someone else there to do it for them & when we are older we have to be responsible for ourselves. Your T is wise....glad you are working at following his suggestion.

Lol, I always tried to coach my daughter into the things she could do to handle situations & only stepped in when that didn't work. Lol her one teacher LEARNED not to ignore situations till it got to that point because when I got pushed that far it wasn't going to be a good situation for her if it wasn't resolved immediately. At her new school, I tried to get a situation resolved without having to talk with the principal....it didn't happen so they got all my logic dumped on them....& my daughter ended up staying in the class she was comfortable in after just loosing her grandpa & the move to a new school....she didn't need any more upsetting changes in her life. The thing was by standing up for her, she learned how to stand up for herself because we always talked through what the best approach was. She is a strong independent woman now & takes care of herself well. Wow, a shock because I had no idea that what I was doing would actually have that result.

Lol...reminds me of that movie "failure to launch". They have to learn to be independent best by late teens, early 20's but training needs to start young