The only people I have in my life currently are people I can be direct and open with. Going forward I'm going to be careful with anyone I allow into my life and rather than stew in anything, I plan to tackle problems in the moment by being courteous but also direct. I would need more details on your situation to elaborate on how I'd handle it. I think taking a moment to gather the thoughts and not react emotionally is good but not so long that I stew in it all or later regret not standing up for myself. (((Hugs)))