You "Play" when your single. It's not healthy going out and opening up to another man, especially one that lets you sleep at his house numerous times only when his wife is not around. Like I said, there are boundaries you don't cross. What if I did that too her? She would be in the exact position I am. If she wants the freedom of being single, then be single! I never said she couldn't have friends but some thing are unacceptable when you are married. Would your spouse approve of you having one on one time with a person of the opposite sex? Would you sleep at their house with your spouse knowing? She kept ALL that from me. Trust is a double edge sword