You are not understanding the "play" I am describing.

I would not like the staying over part either, especially how she includes the children. HOWEVER, that may be her way of controlling this relationship from getting intimate and her way of not being completely alone with this man.

Remember, I am not getting "her" side of this challenge. I am doing the best I can and not just assuming something bad about her. I don't want to encourage something that may not be there in her.