well we talked last night and it was really easy because he was apologizing and so was i. there was no yelling at all. and lmo- i talked to him about maybe feeling bad about me doing well in school and charity etc.. and he said that the thought hasnt really entered his mind. he said its not because he feels inadequate, its beause we jsut have entirely different views on money. when i have extra money i would rather donate it, when he had extra money he would rather go on a vacation. so i guess were going to try and split it from now on.

he didnt say anything about me donating to the humane society. and he said that he knows its stupid to get mad because i didnt get mad (that sounds like it makes no sense).

he also admitted to me that he loves all the pets but he loves hera more because when we went to the shelter he stood at the cages and she was the only kitten to come up to him and meow her head off and go crazy over him. so he feels like they had a connection that the others didnt have with him but he also said its getting better.

so hopefully the next time something like this happens we can both make a conscious effort to not totally blow up and get defensive.

thanks guys.