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Originally Posted by Rose76
Do you think you could cope with being alone? Fear of being alone often motivates people to stay in unhappy relationships.
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Although I am and have been used to living with her for a while, yes I could cope living alone again if I had to.
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Originally Posted by Rose76
Going through with a wedding, IMHO, would be granting her license to treat you as she does. Why should she change, if she can get away with staying just the way she is?
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I know what you mean. She is set in stone the way she is and if she sees that she is perfectly fine the way she is then yes why would she change?
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Originally Posted by Rose76
I think it's a phantasy to hope that your fiancee could be counseled into becoming nicer to you. Not when she is satisfied with being how she is. She sees you as the one who needs to change. In a way, she's right. The dynamics between the two of you won't change, until you change something. You're the one who is dissatisfied with the status quo.
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Yes, she believes that she is perfectly normal the way she is and doesn't think she has any issues.
I am the one who apparently is the 'bad guy' and the one who needs to change. She says I am difficult to live with.