Rose76,
I am sorry, but I really need to ask you - have you ever been in an abusive relationship or do you have any true knowledge related to the dynamics of it? Your advice is coming from a good place in your heart, I can tell, but in some instances it is bordering on "victim blaming".
I have been in abusive relationships - several I just took the blame for being in, and as such ended up bouncing around from one to the next because my self worth went lower and lower. I was already in counseling when one occurred though, and my counselor figured it out. She had me seek a shelter - and counseled me on both the dynamics of how abusers manage to control my thinking before the actual "explosive abuse" begins, and why it is not my fault.
Most people who have not been through it or educated on it do not understand how that pre-abuse control cripples a person. That's why I am asking you as politely as I know how.
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