((Wounded))

I'm asking myself the same questions today. The question is-- Are our husband's asking themselves these same types of questions? With mine I sometimes wonder if he ever thinks about anyone but himself?

I too had a heart-to-heart discussion with my husband last night. I didn’t go to the point of making an ultimatum but I did communicate in very clear terms that his behavior is intolerable and that it needs to be changed. Our discussion was filled with a lot of denial, blame, and discounting; but I stood firm and just kept repeating that what he does is abuse and that it cannot continue. I even had a follow up this morning with him before I left for work where I repeated that things have got to improve, that I did not think he could do it on his own, and I left a therapy business card on the table. I’m not sure what's going to happen next. I'm kind of afraid to go home.

For me, I’m starting to realize that my ability to adapt, endure, and tolerate is actually a weakness not a strength. I am trying hard to stand firm and defend myself and most importantly my kids. I hope I am doing the right thing.