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Originally Posted by divine1966
If he isn't responding for 10 days I think it's safe to say he is gone. Why though I am unclear. Perhaps he was upset that when he was sharing about his daughter you brought up that he needs to worry about his future children. That's typically not what parents want to hear. Or maybe he was taken aback you already have plans to have kids with him. Or maybe he thought you were trying to joke when he was serious about it. Certainly rather than vanishing he should have discussed it. But he didn't. I would not plan to stay with him and start a plan of moving on. Sorry that happened to you
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Dear Divine1966,
I am writing here again just for some updates. Didn't enter the forum for a long time because it brings back lot of pain. There 2 reasons for coming back here.
First, thank you for the support and messages, it helped me more than I thought it would. I am seeing a therapist since last year and this forum and your messages helped me understand that I need therapy to go on.
So, I had the abortion, it was the best I could did at the time and I'm still learning to make peace with it. I didn't tell my family, they wouldn't have let me and I need it to make my own decision, regardless everybody. It wasn't easy emotionally (nor physically actually, because I had months of complications) still isn't, but I can't turn back the time so that's it. He never replied back and I stopped calling him thanks to you.
The other reason is that I just wanted to share that life has a way of grabbing yourself and take you down that it's truly amazing. Even doe he is not present in my life physically, I work sometimes with his colleagues, which is awkward for everybody and nobody says his name. He work in radio and I am working at my bookshop that I opened last year with my best friend. Even if it's different cities, his colleagues take interviews or we work on distance at some projects together. I got used to it, if it happens that I am in his city, he avoids me, if he's in mine, I am avoiding him. That until today, when the producer came to the bookshop and asked me calmly to go in for an radio interview live about the bookshop in two weeks, in his city, with him at the buttons. If I am up to and it's not too much. Because they want it and they hope I can ignore the fact that he will be there at the buttons. So I said yes, regardless the fact that I started to tremble and have short heavy breath. I thing I am stronger and that I need this confrontation without a real confrontation about us, but it's still one since we will see each other and be in the same room and look in each others eyes through the live transmission.
I am sharing this because I needed to and because you helped me a lot through a really ****ed up time.
Thank you!