Dear T,

"......It's me, it's me it's me that I blame. I was angry with you during that hour. I'm sorry for that, I was wrong. This house has me crazy. You had no idea I was afraid my house might blow up, etc.

Yes, I agree, we need to work on me following my instincts.

If I have it right, I'm worried I don't have my guard up enough (for everyone in my life, not just you) and you are telling me I don't need my guard up at all when it comes to our relationship because you will not hurt me. Does that sound right?

Please don't let me mess up our relationship. That's not my intention....."

From T,

"...You are not messing anything up. I want you to tell me how you feel. I respect your feelings and want to be able to work on them with you so that you get to a place in your life where you feel that following your instincts is safe.

You are right...I will never hurt you. You have the right, though, to ask, to want to talk about your fears. I will not stop being a safe place, no matter what we talk about. You do not have to worry about messing this relationship up. That's part of the safety I want you to begin to trust. I am here......"