Right now she said she is confused. She said she hates her life and hates herself. She said she can't love someone else right now when she hates herself..she kept telling me that if it would work, I would have to be more accepting of how she is...then she counters it by saying we are too different, we don't like the same things ect.

I'm working on rebuilding trust and working on myself. It's tough knowing she had an emotional affair with this man. She said hmshe is never talking to this man again and erased him of FB. I feel something happened physically but she denies it. I been back from deployment 5 months and yesterday was the first time she invited me over. She then proceeds to tell me he bought misc. things for her and ect. She said friends buy things for eachother all the time..I just don't know what to think. She obviously had an emotional connection with this man and makes it seem like it's ok. I really love my wife and she said If I would have never deployed all of this wouldn't have happened.