Admin technically could do everything here but there's a whole lot of everything; lots going on behind the scenes trying to balance a whole lot of people with a whole lot of different needs, interests, etc. Like Muffy's post to help her friends, you never know when someone has had a crummy bus trip and arrived at your door in a crummy mood and sometimes, we don't know that WE have had the crummy bus trip and are being crummy to those around us. Looks reasonable to us but ye olde "independent observer" :-) would see something different?

You can react to mods, Fuzzy, by not reading what they have to say when you see their name. Allowing them to "exist" even when you're triggered, hurt, or angry with them doesn't take too much extra? Play in a "safe" area for a bit that isn't controversial and don't go where they hang out?

I had a hard time in group therapy once and I'd been complaining to my individual therapist often about it and finally she looked thoughtful and said, "I don't know much about group dynamics but I don't think they're out to get you". I literally hadn't realized that, had been acting like they were LOL. Mods and Admin aren't out to get us, they're just trying to keep the peace in situations that are probably good practice for being US diplomats in the Iraq :-)