Wow, krazibean, that is a tough question. I think if my T had a really noticeable bandage and it was large, I might ask him, are you OK, what happened? But if it was just a band-aid, like he cut himself shaving or something, I probably wouldn't remark on it. I had 2 moles removed recently on my neck and had bandages on for 2 weeks. He never asked me about my bandages so maybe he doesn't like to discuss bodily wounds, lol--you know, too personal. Part of it depends on your relationship with your T. Are you open and is she used to sharing personal information (self-disclosing)?

One of the main problems I am working on right now in therapy is my divorce, and it has been so helpful to me that my T has gone through 2 divorces (first as a child when his parents got divorced and second as an adult from his partner). These experiences give him firsthand information about my problems. He's been there, done that, really can empathize and offer insights that are right on. It really helps me when he shares from his own direct experience. I don't know if it would work the same with SI or not, if your T would share about that and give you greater insights into your own situation.