I usually keep mine under wraps pretty well, or so I think anyway, but there was a time several years ago when I was in a support group and got very codependent, "care-taking" some different members there. And in each case, once they got to "depend" on me - taking them places, listening to their problems -- there came to be a time when I felt resentful, tried to back off, then got snarky and hurt their feelings. I felt guilty, but I didn't really want to repair the relationships. And now I know the dangers of me being like that I'm very unlikely to get myself into that kind of situation again.

But I heard that one of them passed away last week and I'm really very sad that things went the way they did, that I couldn't do any better. Of course, neither could she. And, of course, I feel guilty.

Any thoughts? Suggestions?