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Originally Posted by DadFMF
Well today was another downer...I texted her this morning and wished her a good day today. She responded "Ok, just divorce me". I responded back saying that i didn't want to divorce her. She then stated "To much time has passed" she said that I made her feel as if she wasn't good enough. I asked if if she lost all of her feelings for me she said "I think so". I asked her if she was going to divorce me and she stayed "No, I'm to busy to deal with relationship matters" . I said if she wasn't busy, would she. She stated "Not sure"....she stated she hardend Her heart to everything.....
I don't know what to do guys/gals..do I leave her alone? Do I Persue her to let her know that I do love and care about her?
She completely closed herself off to me. But yet she invited me inside her house and talked with me while I was laying on the same bed with her.
I just need advise on what my next step should be..I'm so lost...
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I think that she is definitely confused and her statement of "Just Divorce Me", in my opinion is her own feeling of "low self worth" right now. I mean, think about it, when she caught you talking to another woman that not only affected her trust in you, but as I mentioned was a hit to her self esteem too.
That is what she means by how you made her feel like she was not good enough. Well, now her friendship/whatever she had with this other man fell apart which is yet another hit to her ego that again makes her feel "not good enough".
Personally, I think all her behaviors towards you was her effort to make you feel the way she felt. So, in other words she wanted you to hurt like she was hurt. Also, when she said, "just divorce me", what she did "not" say was "I want to divorce you". Truth is, she is still feeling rejected and is paining from a hit to her self esteem.
It's very hard to get "trust" back.
If you really love her then all you can do is be patient with her and I personally don't think you should keep asking her if she wants a divorce.
And if you need to vent or reach out for support in this thread? It's fine, that is what this site is for.