I am just a little concerned at the amount of self-disclosure you indicate that your T is doing-- because now it is has gotten to the point where you see this bandage, you associate it with someone she has told you, and now you can't get it out of your mind.

If she did SI, why does that make her any different? Suppose it was SI-- wow, then she must have been going through a hard time, but was still able to come to work and do her job-- that sounds like a pretty good role model to me.

Please try and think of the other things it could be besides SI. It sounds as though you have completely made up your mind as to what happened.

Now my opinion has shifted-- Before I said NO WAY don't ask her about it, it will make her uncomfortable. But now that I can see that it is dominating your thoughts and might interfere with the therapeutic process-- I would say something. Maybe instead of asking her directly about what happened, tell her what is going on for YOU in regards to this. It is up to her how she wants to handle the disclosure or absence of disclosure. I do believe that anything interfering with the therapeutic process should be mentioned. Initially I saw the title of the post which is "curious about T"-- that is why I was against saying anything... because it was just curiousity. Now it has become so much more than that for you, but again, I encourage you to talk about how this is affecting YOU-- it is your therapy, not hers.