It's 100% her decision. It's been a year since we lived together. She has to make a decision on what she wants to do. She can't have her cake and eat it too. She was emotionally involved with this man. We will never work if he is around. From a women's point of view, what if a man was buying you things constantly, taking you out all the time to hang out. How would you think your husband would feel about it? Better yet, what if all of this was happening to you, how would you approach/handle it? The only way to reconcile and to save our marriage is to cut those people loose.