Dear Wounded. Wow, I understand why thinkng about your situation makes you cry. Leaving any relationship is difficult. If the partners in a relationship are not happy usually the children are not happy either. And I have never thought it was good for anyone to stay together because of the children If your separation drives you farther apart then that is probably meant to be. Also, if and when you leave I am sure you will soon realize what you want. Maybe it will prove to him that he needs to change, but needing to change, wanting to change and changing are all different! Obviously you are not happy and the move will definetly give you time to breathe and think without the added pressure of trying to act like all is well! My prayers are will you.