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Originally Posted by Trace14
I think most people and animals feel the same way that they would fight to the death for their offspring. But I think from some of our own histories we may be more so. Raising a child would be complicated as well. You see so many people saying I want my kids to have what I didn't have, but in the meantime they miss teaching the children that not everything so their way, or not everything you want can be attained with out some work. That's why we live in a society of people who feel they are entitled. But you can really blame them that;s the world they were brought up in. Children mimic their environment as they get older. Children brought up in abusive home often become abusive spouses themselves. Children that are brought up feeling that they don't have to work for the material things in life have a really hard time in life. Not saying all children grow up that way but if they don't know any other way they will resort to what they know as an adult. I'm glad you are a loving father, you seem very balanced in the way you perceive things in life. Pretty remarkable considering what you went through, you should be very proud of yourself. I don't really know you and I'm proud of you  |
You are very.kind. I'm sure you have heard before "don't sweat the little stuff " well, when you go through some trauma, eventually learn not to sweat the big stuff, either. There really is alot of stuff that is beyond our control. Particularly when you are just a kid. Then you don't have much opportunity to control anything. I don't have kids of my own, but I tutor math to kids. Half of the challenge of teaching kids is to get them to believe in themselves. It is rewarding to see kids who had no confidence develop confidence in math, or life.
We all have to be patient, really patient, with kids. They are under a lot of pressure from school, from parents, from peers, from society, We really need to help them deal with all these pressures. I think they have alot moré pressure now than our generation had. Things are moving too fast now. As soon as you learn some things they become obsolete rapidly. I don't think this is going to end well for our society. Shalom.