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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
So it seems that tapping into the emotions of my inner child regarding MC might be a good sign that I am in fact in the process of working through the transference? So I should keep exploring that instead of shying away?
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
I assume this all comes from a very young part of me. Like the part with separation anxiety (though I had issues with that at 12, too).
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I'm thinking from some stuff I read on that site linked above, this is all inner child stuff coming out. And of course, what do I want to do?
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But I think it's a pretty big step that I AM admitting that, right? That I'm showing that vulnerability? Because maybe that means I'm ready to move forward with working on my attachment/transference.
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I think it's progress, too, and working through transference feelings. And vulnerability coinciding with that young part of you emerging. Not from a judgment perspective, but as a pattern person, I noticed a change from adult expressions of yourself to expressions from a really young place.
The adult more intellectualized; child parts raw. I remember when my child feelings emerged in session, it felt like I was unfrozen. Aside from the awful dissociative stuff, only thinking of the positive stuff here, I felt like it was like experiencing myself for the first time. It felt beautiful as it was unfolding, the love feelings in the relationship from my child parts. This was long ago.
Agree you're doing really good work and were brave.
ps maybe he's not responding right away to give you time to explore all this stuff, to give you space. If he responds right away, the exploration doesn't happen the same way. When he interjects, your focus changes from you to him. If he gives you space, you can work at processing and understanding feelings. Speaking of inner child, kind of like a parent who doesn't rush to interject each time so the child learns and grows.
Pps sorry, im scatterbrained. He said he wouldnt intentionally not answer.