Hi there! "What do you want me to say"do" must be the question they all ask. That is exactly what my husband said, and I finally stopped the nitpicking by saying "Think it over and decide what you want out of this". I am staying right here where I am, going to counseling, etc. If you want to talk to people who have had multiple marriages, and live with one person after the other, then you are choosing bad advise, and I disagree, and will not give in when I know what is right in my own mind and heart. That completely stopped the silliness where he is trying to get me to feel quilty for the problems he caused. I am going about life usual, and hope that he can get this young woman out of his mind that he had a super crush on. In our case, it is some mid life crisis also, but , hey, I am hurt!!