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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Oh, I see...though, I could also still put H in my mom's role, only in this case, my "dad" loves me more than he does my "mom." Which would also leave H left out, but would fit better with my childhood stuff. Plus the typical Freudian stuff about little girls vying with their mom for their dad's affections and such.
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Yes, but in this configuration that you suggest, it would be MC, and not you, would be the one telling H (aka childhood you) "maybe I love her more than you." This is what I meant when I said it can be hard for us to see, often, when we take on the role of someone who hurt us.
Anyway, it's a lot to think about. Transference stuff is powerful. I've had a lot of strong reactions to therapists, and to my husband. That's why I urge you not to leave your husband out of the transference analysis.