Thanks again, it really helps.

School is an ongoing thing, as she works full time in quite a senior management position,and studies in her spare time. I do know her studies are very important to her. She has a masters degree already, is studying for another, and wants to do a PhD as well. She absolutely hates anything less than top marks, and is a perfectionist in that regard.

So, I'm pretty sure there's nothing else, as we were living together until the break up.

Well I'm working on the hope that she reaches out, but it's hard to tell. We split before, over a year ago, over a minor argument, and I never heard a word, but when I contacted her a month later she was fine, and open to meet, but I didn't follow up and never heard from her either. It was only when I contacted her a few months later that we got back together, almost as if nothing happened. So I've always been the one who's had to initiate.

That said, we were much closer this time, and after she moved out I never expected to hear from her. However, she did initiate contact, a week or so later, with a couple of drunk calls, which is what kept us in contact until she withdrew entirely. Anyone else, and I'd expect a drunk call at some point, but sadly she rarely drinks.

Given that she called me crying, a month after we broke up, worried that I'd lost interest and found someone else, even though we were talking most days and making plans, she'll almost certainly think I've lost interest already. That will make it twice as hard for her to reach out, unless she's sure she'd get a positive response, as she's terrified of rejection. Ordinarily I'd just contact her, as that's always worked, but then she's never ignored me before, and would normally never do anything she considered rude or disrespectful to me, so it's hard to know if that would just push her further away now.

Haha, thanks for the sympathies, it is trying at times. Mostly though it's ok, as she's aware of some of her issues and behaviours, and apologises when she gets snappy, and so is pretty awesome in most ways, and we were really happy. It's mostly trying as, even when we were last taking she said how happy she was and how much she missed things, and so it would so much easier if it was just a case of lost or changed feelings, as I could accept it and let go.