Hi Phoenix.

I totally get where you are coming from in regards to wanting to help your friend. There are certainly ways to put her on the right path, whilst remaining detached....Be there for her when she needs to vent and give advice when its needed. But the need for you to self protect is very real, as you have been to hell & back yourself.

It sounds like you are good friends...however telling her what to do can often backfire, as you may be held accountable down the track. Perhaps guiding her in her decision making is the best way to go...and be sure to explain to her that in some areas you need to remain aloof so as to self protect, as she is in a similar situation I am sure she will understand.

I wish you both all the best moving forward.