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Old May 12, 2017, 04:05 AM
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Originally Posted by Helphelp1234567890 View Post
I have similar problems with motivation and haven't found a real solution but I'd like to share something someone told me recently that struck a chord.

"If you had a broken leg, you wouldn't beat yourself up for not being able to climb a mountain." So remember what you are facing is difficult and it's ok if you need to reevaluate goals. It's not healthy to hold yourself to the same standard as if you didn't have these problems.

Because of my upbringing (and societal stigma at large) I really beat myself up about not being able to have enough "grit" to deal with my problems. And that discussion really opened my mind to the idea that it's ok to take a step back when I need to. What is manageable everyday can change and that is OK.
With media sensationalizing everything, I would not be surprised if someone with a broken leg would be expected to climb a mountain. There would be a tv special about it, with platitudes about how we all could do it if we tried.

I understand this problem as well and it is getting worse for me. Really stupid simple things are hard, like opening the mail and showering. Sometimes I get so frustrated I do force myself to act, but I am usually sobbing like an idiot by that time.

The only fix I can think of is to get into situations where I must absolutely do something because consequences are unacceptable, like losing my job if I am late. I recently lost a lot of money on medical bills, and surprise, I have no money to spend on takeout just because I am too tired to cook. Having money for that was a luxury where the brain says, "why work when you have moneys to pay for easy, delicious dinner?" Now I make lentil soup even though I am tired because if I don't I will have nothing to eat.

Maybe it is so hard to do things because there are so many things we don't actually need to do. Not really. It is all expectations driving us, with little incentive to back it up except some lofty ideal of cleanliness, responsibility or peer pressure.

If you find a solution let me know. I am biased toward stopping caring about why I feel I need to dust the widescreen tv or put a dish in a sink instead of on a table.