Hugs. Good point about not wanting school to know about your problems. I don't think mental health issues should be considered shameful, but wider society and particular environments can be horribly stigmatizing.

One thing T has told me and which I've gradually learned is that berating myself won't prevent mistakes because no human can be perfect.

We space out, get busy, drift off and forget things.

I did tell T I'm abusive because well...partner problems. :/ Partner said I treat him like an emotional punching bag and my fear is I'm just like my mother and am indeed abusive despite not shouting, no name calling, no cruel sarcasm, no intentional meanness.