Well yes Cielpur, of course you're right. That said, I doubt she enjoys the back and forth any more than I do.

Personally I hate playing games, and will happily leave someone to it if that's what they're doing. However, it's tougher when someone's insecurities are the cause.

As an example, after a happy dinner, I went to pay and said I'd walk her home, as I knew she needed an early night. Without explanation she got upset and snapped at me. I was confused until she explained that her immediate thought was that I was trying to get rid of her early, and so she reacted.

So, whilst I agree with what you're saying, it's harder when you know that the underlying reasons come not from a desire to be difficult, but are about being insecure, uncertain and scared.

Of course I could cut through all the bs by being direct, but that's impossible whilst I'm being ignored.