Thank you Jennifer, I really appreciate you giving me your perspective, from someone who shares similar fears.

I'm aware that it would always be an ongoing thing, but when we were together it was pretty mild, and I could always deal with it quite easily. It's only since we split, and so communication became more guarded, that things went awry.

I hope you're right, in that a bit of space will help. In fact that's what I thought, and figured it would be alright once the exams stresses died down.

I did tell her I wanted her back, but equally she would say I was guarded, and taking things slow, but then would back off confused if I pressed, so who knows what she thinks now.

I suppose my only doubt is that my offer to give her that space may have been wrongly interpreted as me letting go, as she didn't react well to it. But maybe that was just anger and stress. So, even if she does get her "ducks in a row" and wants the same as I do, my worry is that she'll assume I no longer do, and so her insecurities will cause her not to take the chance of making contact, out of fear of rejection.

It's funny, as with most girls, a bit of doubt and uncertainty can often encourage them to reach out and test the waters, whilst being persistent can push them away. However, with someone avoidant, who needs that reassurance, in order to feel safe, the reverse is often true, but it becomes a case of knowing how much, and timing.

As it stands, the last time we spoke was about a month or so ago. I texted a week later, and a week after that, both just friendly and non committal, and both were ignored. As a result I haven't made contact for nearly 3 weeks now. So she will definitely assume I've given up, regardless of what she or I may want.

So, if I was sure she knew I still wanted the same it would be so much easier, as I could just leave it to her, and if she did she could make contact, and if not then so be it.